Do we really understand the
heart of a problem if we only treat one symptom and ignore what is at the root?
I am thinking of something very specific this week in light of the tragic
events in Rosenburg, Oregon. I think we are a society that is happy to continue
picking fruit to destroy the evil tree instead of taking a chainsaw to its roots.
Do we really understand the
heart of a problem if we only treat one symptom and ignore what is at the root?
I am thinking of something very specific this week in light of the tragic
events in Rosenburg, Oregon. I think we are a society that is happy to continue
picking fruit to destroy the evil tree instead of taking a chainsaw to its roots.
I am no expert in the arena of parenting. The problem with my fatherhood is three-fold:
1. The jury is still out on me.
2. At times I have failed as a father.
3. I am still learning how to be a good father.
But I offer some reflections that have benefited me and hope they will help others.
Being a father is tough. Too often men enter into this sacred role flippantly and with little or no preparation and that is sad. Of the many demands on our lives guys, being a dad ranks as one of the most difficult and important. Why do we spend so much time on our vocations or planning for our retirement, when raising our kids is so important? I believe we can lose a job and recover, but if we lose our kids…then what?
One of my cherished possessions in my office is a piece of cross-stitch I’ve had since 1987. It reads, Any man can be a father but it takes someone special to be a daddy! I would only add that it takes a great deal of blood, sweat, and tears as well.
Kids grow up too quickly. This is not just a worn-out phrase…it is shockingly true. Some days I long to hold my kids just one more time on my lap; I want them to wrestle with me and jump all over me again. The sad truth is that this will never happen and I have to live with that. Kids grow up, period.
Two songs that I listen to over and over are Cats in the Cradle & Watching Scotty Grow. Cats is a sad song about a dad who is too busy to spend time with his growing son. The son wants to be just like him. In the end the dad wants to spend time with his son, but his son is now too busy for his dad—“He’d grown up just like me.” Watching (a song my Mom used to sing to me) is a song about a dad spending time with his son instead of spending time chasing dreams…he just wanted to watch his boy grow up. Two good songs…two lessons learned.
There are no guarantees in raising kids. I partially agree with this, but it is no excuse for us dads to be physically present but emotionally and spiritually checked out! The principle of scripture still holds true, Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6 ESV). Men, we must be doing the training and not using the “no guarantees” excuse to get us out of our responsibility. Don’t just show up; do something to train.
I am scared…I am scared out of my skin to have my kids walk away from God and His love for them. The most security kids can have is in an eternal relationship with God, and I want to do everything I can to make sure they have that security.
Solomon wrote, The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice; he who fathers a wise son will be glad in him. (Proverbs 23:24 ESV)
Grace & Peace, Scott
I believe that both the above views are wrong. The one view dissolves the biblical vision of a deacon, while the other blurs any distinctive function of a deacon. From scripture I understand that a deacon’s responsibilities and priorities flow from that of the pastor’s. The Bible is very clear on a shepherd’s responsibilities and priorities:
“…We will devote ourselves to prayer and to the ministry of the word.” (Acts 6:4)
A pastor’s clear focus must be on two priorities…prayer and the ministry of the Word. A single-minded tenacity on praying and ministering the Word is the most fulfilling work that I can do. This is the sacred charge that I have been given, and it is not something I take lightly. These two priorities have always been under attack. Getting focused on other good things is what hinders me from doing what God has called me to do. Any neglect of these priorities sabotages God’s work. Replacing these priorities with budgets, buildings and bean counting will highjack what God is trying to accomplish through me at Calvary.
Now please understand, I don’t believe I am “God’s gift to Calvary.” I can easily be replaced (not looking to be replaced though). I am just saying that from scripture I clearly see what I need to do. If a pastor’s priorities are prayer and the Word, then the deacon’s priorities involve ministering in ways that enable me to do this.
This brings me to what I want to say about our deacons at Calvary: They are Spirit-filled men who enable me to do what God has called me to do! I love and respect each of them and count it a privilege to serve alongside of them. They are enabling me to pray and spend time in the Word. They allow me the thrill of fulfilling my sacred charge. They understand that they too have a sacred charge from God. The deacons at Calvary are men who lift the burdens off me that don’t need to be there.
Much more could be written but I will save that for later. I just want to say, “Thank you deacons.”
Grace & Peace,
Scott
One of the main focuses of the passage is the transference of ownership from the apostles to the deacons. You see, the apostles were finding themselves dealing with problems and putting out fires in the church. This in and of itself is not beyond the scope of any pastor, but they were doing this to the detriment of what God had called them to do—prayer and the ministry of the Word. They not only feared neglecting their God-given ministry, but they also feared a fracturing of the church if something wasn’t done immediately. The plan they came up with is to give the ministry of administering the finances for the ministry of mercy over to a well-qualified group of men whom the church trusted.
Once the church body chose seven men, one thing was left undone…the first deacons had to be given the authority and feel the responsibility of caring for the widows. This authority and responsibility was felt when the apostles laid their hands on the first deacons as a sign that they were transferring the ownership of this part of the ministry over to them.
This is what I wanted our deacons to feel Sunday. This is the heartbeat I desire when it comes to the deacons at Calvary Church. I don’t want us to have a group of men who are the CEO’s or the CFO’s or the CIO’s or any other CO’s who dictate the direction of the church. That is beyond the scope of New Testament deacons. I also don’t want a group of men who are the pastor’s assistants. God’s design and desire for deacons is that they be the Ministers of Mercy in the church.
Grace & Peace,
Scott